Mom Number Two

you all named me

mom number two

sent me Mother’s day cards

said I taught you right from wrong

said I taught you to read

and how to tell time

yet you ridicule



abuse me

then blame me


your ill choices


no matter what you say or do

I am ever connected to you

my lessons did not fail

you did

I am your sister

(c) Janni Styles


Kindness Karma

you’ve only to sit back

watch the heartless get what they deserve

karma goes direct

it does not swerve

doing nothing is the same

as being actively unkind

“nothing” karma always returns

when something is needed down the line

so let the bitter hearted do whatever they do

don’t get mixed up in karma not meant for you

if they ignore the hurting

instead of being kind

they’ll never truly know

genuine connection of humankind

queen karma always visits

though she may be  somewhat tardy

wherever there was cruelty

she returns to strike the hardy

withholding love or kindness

a sorrowful legacy to impart

kindness always leaves the kind

a very peaceful heart

better to be kind whenever we can

a kindness insurance for the soul

in living a life of grace

love shining out the everlasting goal

(c) Janni Styles


Christmas: Do you find hard times harder at this time of year?


Capture christmas comfort piece blog


First posted November 29, 2015 but not much has changed since then. Sadly. I recently lost a brother one month and a sister the next in autumn 2017. Some social media post crazy maniacs were so unsupportive as to be abusive in telling me all about Facebook algorithms and saying “I hope you find someone who shares in your grief at this time.” Passive aggressive? Absolutely. Abusive?Absolutely. Not to mention extremely rude and most unkind. Now, that said, I heard from a “ton” of people I did not expect to hear from and they were very kind in their messages and checking behind the scenes to see if I was okay. Thank you to all of those kind hearts and to a few folks I know I know in the “real world.” It was surprising how many I know in  the real world who just stayed silent, posting their “baloney” sandwiches or gripes about life while saying nothing to me when I was always there to show support for them and their challenges. Lessons by the dozens are now learned. And to those others who were blatantly rude and unkind: “Straighten up. Wait until it’s your turn to mourn someone you love. I have saved your message(s) and will post them on your pages for you when that happens to you.” Well, maybe I won’t because I am not so hurtful as they are. Queen Karma will be visiting them, I am sure. Meanwhile, I am left wondering, how is it that people have time to lecture you at length by the page full online, post lengthy passive aggressive messages, share their constant griping about problems that are not even really problems at all and yet no time to simply say “I am so sorry.” Social Media, as I have said many times in the past, is not so social after all in my opinion. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing this Christmas, I hope you know someone cares. You can always message me behind the scenes here if you need a kind ear. Peaceful holidays wished to all. ❤ ❤ ❤


Social Media Lies

Social media can be hard to contend with even when we are not smack dab in the middle of the Christmas holidays but when we are, it helps to remember that a social media presence is not a full or completely accurate perspective of who someone is.

We all try to show our best online but sometimes that is just not possible. Those times can be very dangerous for some because of the shaming that comes with social media if you are not sunshiny-happy-funny all the time in your posts.

Do people have the right to shame blame us? Of course they do not but they assume it anyway, well, just because they can. Tough subjects are often spurned on social media at the best of times and even more so during the holidays.

If only people would educate themselves and realize that social media is absolutely not all it is cracked up to be because some are struggling with so much in the “real” world that they dare not share for fear of being shame-blamed. Sad, isn’t it, what is happening to human compassion… Many could do to read Jean Vanier’s “Becoming Human.”

The only tool required to help someone online is kindness. Many things people are coping with are invisible to the naked social media eye and nobody should hasten to judge lest you or someone you love wear those very shoes one day yourselves. Nobody wants or plans to get PTSD or chronic physical health conditions.

Many will never understand this anyway unless and until it happens to them. Still, even in the face of not fully understanding, kindness never fails.

For those wanting to learn more or better understand Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which is just one of the many health conditions I contend with daily, here is an enlightening article that might help you or someone you love through this holiday season.


Learn here about the effects of living with PTSD