Social media can be hard to contend with even when we are not smack dab in the middle of the Christmas holidays but when we are, it helps to remember that a social media presence is not a full or completely accurate perspective of who someone is.
We all try to show our best online but sometimes that is just not possible. Those times can be very dangerous for some because of the shaming that comes with social media if you are not sunshiny-happy-funny all the time in your posts.
Do people have the right to shame blame us? Of course they do not but they assume it anyway, well, just because they can. Tough subjects are often spurned on social media at the best of times and even more so during the holidays.
If only people would educate themselves and realize that social media is absolutely not all it is cracked up to be because some are struggling with so much in the “real” world that they dare not share for fear of being shame-blamed. Sad, isn’t it, what is happening to human compassion… Many could do to read Jean Vanier’s “Becoming Human.”
The only tool required to help someone online is kindness. Many things people are coping with are invisible to the naked social media eye and nobody should hasten to judge lest you or someone you love wear those very shoes one day yourselves. Nobody wants or plans to get PTSD or chronic physical health conditions.
Many will never understand this anyway unless and until it happens to them. Still, even in the face of not fully understanding, kindness never fails.
For those wanting to learn more or better understand Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which is just one of the many health conditions I contend with daily, here is an enlightening article that might help you or someone you love through this holiday season.